After being on the road for most of October, and having little to no personal space or time, I was quite relieved to finally have a night all to myself. As I walked around my apartment in a fully expressed episode of MY Secret Single Behaviour… I had a thought…
Why are we always so hard on ourselves, for just being ourselves?
As I sat there, I got thinking about all the different people I had recently spent time with. From friends that want to lose weight, to those that are sick of being single, or the people in my life that are starting to have issues with their health… there is shame in their struggle.
We all have things in our life that we aren’t proud of, or even feel embarrassed about. Society puts a lot of pressure on us to be and do certain things. From getting an education, to having a white picket fence… we all feel pressured to do or be something that we are not.
After spending a brief amount of time with some people that seemed to have it all, I realized one thing… NO ONE has it all. You can be filthy rich, and dying of cancer. You can have the perfect family, yet one of your kids despises you. You can have the perfect job, and still never feel content with your income or place in the world.
There is no such thing as a destination where everything in life is perfect. We have to stop putting pressure on ourselves to get to a place that doesn’t exist.
There are really only two options:
- Accept what you cannot change.
Change what you cannot accept.
Knowing the difference is where you have to start understanding yourself, if you want to find acceptance. You HAVE TO be honest with that which you do not accept. Are you wanting these things because others have them? Society pressure? Or are you wanting these things for yourself?
If you aren’t doing it for yourself, it won’t last and you will never feel satisfied.
Take the pressure off of yourself to be or do something that doesn’t align with you.
Start writing your own life rules! From dating, to what size you wear, and if you even want the damn white fence.